Transitioning from Married to Single Life for Recent Divorcees
When a couple reaches the point that they divorce, most often the couple is not thinking about how different life is going to be once they are no longer married and are single. They are likely consumed with the problems that led to the divorce in the first place. However, transiting from married to single life can be just as difficult for the person as the initial start of the divorce proceedings. Both men and women suffer at this point in their life, but these tips can help to make this transition a bit smoother.
Take Things Slowly
Take some time to learn about yourself before you jump into a new relationship. This time should be taken to look at why the divorce happened, and how you want to avoid a similar situation in the future. Many therapists recommend that a person stay single and avoid relationships for at least a year after going through a divorce.
Ways to Spend your Time
One of the biggest complaints recent divorcees is that they are not sure how they should spend their time. Most people find that they have more time now than they did when they were married. Here are some helpful ways to spend your time that can also help you to grow:
1. Consider joining a self-help group for those who have recently divorced. You are going to meet new people and also share your stories for help.
2. Join a club that deals with your hobbies or interests
3. Take classes to further your education for a better job, or simply because you want to better yourself.
Have a Support System in Place
There may be times, following divorce, in single life when you feel hopeless. This is to be expected. To the extent possible, try to develop and rely on a support system when you experience difficult times. A support system can include close friends, family members, therapists, or clergy. Each person is different so that character of the support system will vary from person to person. The important thing is to make an effort to develop a support system to handle the transition.
Being married and then getting divorced is a huge step in your life. For whatever reason that you divorced, remember that there is a transition period for everyone. There is no set time frame for when single life is going to become easier. Each person is different. For those who are contemplating divorce, you are welcome to contact us at the Taylor Law Office to schedule a consultation.